In the Meantime

         We just celebrated Valentine’s Day, so naturally my post this week is about love! My friends and family can all tell you that one of my biggest desires is to be a wife. I’ve always thought about the kind of man that I would marry, but in 2016 I started fiercely praying for the man that I will one day make my vows to. I started working on myself, so that I can be the type of woman that will attract the type of man that I desire. Being single is not a time to sit around and wait, but a unique season of getting to know yourself, to learn, to grow, and to truly live. You keep moving forward, following the dreams and desires in your heart, and then one day, that man will come by your side, and he’ll just be a part of that journey as you move along together. Now while that sounds great, and that is absolutely my goal, sometimes it’s easier said than done. I won’t lie, I have found myself crying in the car after leaving a party or feeling waves of disappointment after seeing yet another person post their engagement announcement on social media. Don’t get me wrong, I truly LOVE seeing those and celebrating when people fall in love, but it can sometimes be painful to see others get the thing you crave for. I apologize if that sounds selfish, I’m just being completely transparent with you.

            Here’s the thing, it’s okay to feel sad and disappointed that our time hasn’t come yet, but that’s not a state that we should live in. We have been given this incredible gift of time to bloom exactly where we are. Don’t try to compare your love story or your timeline to somebody else’s. Enjoy this time and celebrate the mess out of those who receive their promise- knowing that our time will come, and people will get to celebrate with us as well. We can be filled with hope that if God did it for them, He can do it for us. And you know what? When our time comes, some other girl will be on the other side, waiting for her mate, and we can be a testimony of God’s faithfulness to her.

            So, to my fellow single ladies, Beautiful ones, you are worthy of love, and God hasn’t forgotten about you. Your time WILL come but for now, enjoy life in the meantime. Make this season, however long it may be, count for something. Use this time to love on and grow yourself. And as you’re working on yourself, be praying for your future husband. One thing I love to do is write letters and prayers for my future husband. It can be a little strange to write letters to someone you don’t even know, but there’s something about it that brings me so much hope and excitement. The prayers are powerful, because I get to partner with heaven and pray protection, favor, health, etc. over this man I’m waiting for. I can’t wait to one day read all of these with him. If you’ve never done that, I highly encourage you to write that man a letter tonight. Let them know exactly how you’re feeling in this moment, what you’re looking forward to in marriage, and how excited you are to one day do life together. While you wait, allow Jesus to come in and show you who you are, and how much you are loved. He will pursue you like no other and satisfy every longing in the meantime. Friends, I am praying with you and believing for your mighty men of God to show up at God’s appointed time. I am praying peace over your hearts and minds as you navigate singleness and work on becoming the best version of you. God is writing the most beautiful love story for each of you, and I can’t wait to celebrate you when that day comes!